Wife says that she had enough, files for divorce

[SwHubby]

Hi,

Took some heat from W today at D-exchange. I find it so hard to follow what she means, and she is. To making it easier to understand by explaining to me. Usually when D is near we act polite and nice towards each other. However, today when D could not hear us, W quickly said:

"I can't believe you are acting this disrespectful and and bad towards me. You are burning all bridges between us!"

And I do not know what she means. A couple of weeks ago she told me that I correct her at times at that it is disrespectful. I know I have done that in the past, but at that time I tried to do it nice to make sure that we were on the same pace in a law discussion. And afterwards I have been really careful to say anything that could be translated that way.

I have, however, restarted the discussion about were D will live going forward again. And I have not yet agreed upon Ws terms about dividing our assets.
I am really trying to dissect the past months to detect "bad behaviour" on my part. I have not yelled, called her things, been acting grumpy or anything like that at all during this process. I try to act "as if" and be happy and carefree. Bit of course my pain will come through on occasion.

Can I think about my sitch in some new way that would make me understand what W means?

I am thinking about validating her and tell her that she seems angry and frustrated. And ask her if she would like to visit a family therapist with me to be able to talk to each other. But on e other hand, I guess it is way to late to validate now....