I thought I tried gratitude. My actual message was, "Not going to Germany, so won't need you to keep her. Thanks for offering, though." I see how I could have worded that better, but man, it feels like walking on eggshells.
Yeah, its not a huge difference. I will say that this wording makes it come off like you assume she doesnt want D during that time so youre doing her a favor by taking her back. It feels subtle. But I dont think you get any push back if you word it like I did - saying you want her vs. saying that she doesnt need to have her.
Originally Posted By: EastTN
whenever she feels the need to talk.
I dont understand. The onus is on the 6 year old to decide when she wants to talk? It sounds like she has a lot of feelings she needs to process. I wonder if the school counselor is enough vs. someone trained in family counseling.
Originally Posted By: EastTN
Any thoughts on giving STBXW a heads up? If the situation were reversed, I'd want to be aware.
A heads up on....what, exactly? I dont think its wise to tell her that D is complaining about going to W's place.
I do think there may be some benefit to comment that D is expressing sadness about leaving and to see if W is noticing similar patterns of behavior. And getting her opinion on the counselor and if there may be better options.
