I thought I tried gratitude. My actual message was, "Not going to Germany, so won't need you to keep her. Thanks for offering, though." I see how I could have worded that better, but man, it feels like walking on eggshells.
As far as a third party goes, I talked to her pediatrician during her physical and she gave D a referral to the school counselor. She's been seeing her once or twice a week whenever she feels the need to talk. Both the school counselor and the MD didn't think she needed to see anyone professional yet. I'll bring it up with the counselor next time I'm at school and see if she'll talk to her next time D goes to her office.
Any thoughts on giving STBXW a heads up? If the situation were reversed, I'd want to be aware.
