"Listen, this is how marriage works; if one spouse doesn't like the other spouse's friend, then the friend has to go."
This is basically what I've been hearing from my IC and religious leader...What can you tolerate? What are your boundaries? Are you ok with this, because some people might be.
My W has always had guy friends, mostly around work, and I haven't particularly cared. She's attractive and geeky smart and handles herself well in business. I have been jealous at times but only as it pertains to xBFs that wanted to stay in touch with her. She is choosing to handle this differently.
Somewhere I really think that my putting my foot down and taking care of lingering stressors will be more "manly" to her...and it's the right thing to do. As are the GAL ideas and 180s. She said early in our M that one thing she liked about me was that I didn't tolerate her crap. And I've been far more crap-tolerant lately.
