The advice I got on the board was to not confront my W with circumstantial evidence because if she is having one it will drive it further underground.
May drive things further underground, may drive her to get a lawyer, that part I can't control and I'm ok with it. I stopped snooping which has been surprisingly liberating (although she is eating through our data plan, which may be related, may not be).
We've been having a lot of good family time lately and that is not lost on her. - I've made arrangements to move a giant financial burden off of our household, which has been a point of blame that she's put on me (that's not the reality, but whatever). I felt that was my responsibility to fix it and man up on it.
- I was there for her when she needed a laugh after her car wreck this week.
- Kids are doing really well in school.
- We've been having a lot of non-stress quality time
- We are hosting dinner on Friday for our group of close couple friends...actually she's hosting it, it's for my birthday. If she brings up D again in an angry way before then as a result of my asking for clarity on the possible A, I may not show up for my party, and I'll let her explain what's going on. She does not like to own up to her stuff, and our friends are smarter than blindly believing the blame BS. They know the kind of dad, person, and leader I am.
Really looking forward to seeing what the vets say too
