I'll try something like that next time, Kaizen. It seems extremely verbose, but who knows, maybe it will make for some peace.
D asked me this morning where she was going this weekend, and I told her she was going to mommy. She got upset. and said she didn't want to go, especially not for so long (she had a four day weekend with STBXW for labor day). I told her it was for two days this week, and she calmed down, a bit, but still wasn't especially happy. I told her that mommy loved her and missed her a lot, and wanted to see her, and she calmed down some more and said ok.
How do I deal with this? I feel like I need to (try to) talk to STBXW about this and tell her, "hey, I think you need to know about this, and the two of us might need to sit down with D and talk to her" but I really don't know what the heck we would say, or if I should even talk to her about this before court next week. I also feel like "maybe something is wrong over there and that's why D doesn't want to go." What the heck do I even do about that? I try not to pry into what D does with her mom. None of my business, and I don't want D to feel like she's caught in the middle of things. I'm pretty sure she's been told that she's not allowed to tell me things or she'll get in trouble, and I don't want to feed into THAT, either.
Anyone have good suggestions on how to get her to talk about what's bothering her without making her feel pressured, or like she's having to pick between us?
