Thank you so much. I understand it better now. My/Our wifes have been cleaning, cooking and getting the kids ready for years, so why would my few months make a difference to her. They probably see it as. I have been doing it for years. So it's only fair that you are doing it now.
Yes, exactly. And also they will think "if you are doing it now then why the hell couldn't you have done it all those years when I needed the help? It's too little too late." Sandi has posted a lot on how the WAW thinks, it's really hard for us to imagine the mindset but basically they are so fed up that they are quite literally disgusted that we are trying to save things. A lot of guys just don't understand it, they switch over to super-beta (cook, clean, care for the kids) and yet the WAW just seems to be even more angry about it. Well yeah, because she IS!
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Cleaning is not me becoming Alpha. It's me trying to make up for what I've neglected to do in the past.
Yes, and like I said, that is NOT a bad thing! But it's not what's going to bring her back. And in fact if she is actively engaging in an A like it sounds like your W is, it may work against you. If you go all beta at a time like this it just makes OM look that much more attractive and alpha.
