HUGE problem is in my family we never really resolved conflicts...never really had any...mostly kept silent about things.
I know I sound mean to her at times because sometimes my tone gets very angry. You are correct...a lot of my reactions are reactive and anger driven. They don't come from a position of strength.
So I'm working on un-doormatting myself while engaging WW from a position of strength and not reacting emotionally...calmly keeping on point without unravelling into an unproductive anger ridden exchange.
I want to respond with:
"I didn't ask for this S/D so I don't feel I'm the one who should leave. You're welcome to stay at the house anytime, however, I will not leave(be leaving) the MBR."
Will also discuss during my IC session tonight as well as other issues I need to work on.
