My kids are doing good. My W is a school teacher so they where with her in her apartment all summer and I had them on weekends and every Wed night. That was our agreed upon arrangement. When we first sat them down to tell them they cried and my W cried as well. For some reason I held it together. They adjusted quickly though with a few moments here and there.
It does really stink for the kids however in some respects you project your feelings onto them. What matters the most is how you handle the situation and communicate with them. I have never once said anything negative about their mom, at soccer games we sit together as a family with whatever child that is not playing sitting between us, pick up and drop off are cordial ( we make some small talk, things like that), we communicate a few times during the week about the kids now that school has started, joke around here and there. I don't harbor any ill will towards my W for how she felt the only initial anger I had is how she handled the situation. Just keep it as normal as you can for them. We told them they would be going to the same school, have the same friends and told them how much we both loved them. I always tell them that mommy and daddy will love them no matter what. You have to keep your relationship with your W behind the curtain.
The funny thing is I only get emotional when I talk about my children. I never get emotional any more over my W.
