I also remember the last text barrage I received from her; she was angry I "left her hanging". So to avoid repeating those same mistakes; I do need to respond don't I?
Why do you think that was a mistake? Because she got angry?
Here's the thing. You just said she talks to the AP every day. You're not her plan A. Sorry to hit you over the head with that, but you still seem to be thinking that if you're "nice enough" that will get her to come back. It's not going to happen.
DON'T be at her beck and call. She can wait for a text back. You have other, better things to do than to worry about what she's going to do. GAL! She should be worried about what YOU are doing, not the other way around. You're never going to save this otherwise (and you still might not, honestly. But you DO have the opportunity to save yourself).
Also, think about this: This is pretty much the EXACT SAME TEXT you got last time. "If you wanna talk about it we can but you've made it clear to me the last two weeks that you're ok to move forward, so I'm done thinking about it and crying over it." This is just another attempt at manipulation.
You don't want a D. We get that, that's why you're here. But that doesn't mean that you're going to talk her out of it in some way. In the end, she's going to do what she's going to do, and the only thing you have control over is yourself. So don't play her game. I'll let someone else wiser than me give you advice on how to handle responding to this (if at all. Paging sandi!) but I DO know that you do NOT need to reiterate what you've already said. It won't help. It will make things worse.
