Jmstl-let's get to DBing-Part 4

[Jmstl]

So here's a question how do I know if she is in the fog or not

I'm surprised you haven't run across talk about the fog. You would be a better judge then we would be once you feel like you know what the fog is. Maybe try to read some more about it? It's the flip-flopping, the running, making statements that don't make sense. It is a long process and doesn't change your course of action, so not an immediate concern.

Joseph: absolutely do not feel like something is off since you are normally content and happy! I know it might just be self-deprecating modesty, but come on! The key to happiness is being happy with what you have. Yes it can work against you as a lack of motivation in many areas of life, but it beats the alternative!

Well, she certainly hasn't flip flopped on anything recently. She seems to be absolutely sure she wants this. So I would think she was NOT in the fog.

I try not to read her mind, but she said she doesn't sleep well when the children aren't home, that she keeps busy on the days she doesn't have them (vs enjoying time to herself), and she doesn't want to celebrate the divorce with her friend. I don't know what to make of those statements.

But she is adamant on the divorce, and her timeline seems to accelerate from 1 year of separation at the beginning to 3 months to make a decision, to divorce in 2 weeks after moving out.

So I have no idea if she is in the fog or not. I hope she is. Obviously hoping doesn't mean Jack.