Just made plans to go shooting sunday, and take the kiddos to Ren Faire with some friends next weekend.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Just had a panic attack about xmas. Totally unexpected. F you, walmart
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Stay in the present if you look too far in advance your sitch will seem impossible. Live in the present, take it a day at a time. You got through today now get through tomorrow.
Stay in the present if you look too far in advance your sitch will seem impossible. Live in the present, take it a day at a time. You got through today now get through tomorrow.
I did not intentionally think about it till I saw xmas stuff at walmart.
It already seems impossible. The deck is stacked against me so much.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Remember it's not about your W it is about saving yourself and getting yourself feeling good about your future with or without your W. You have to get to a place where you are confident and feeling good about your future.
I will always love my W as she is the mother of my children however if it doesn't workout I know my future is bright. When I first came here I wanted nothing more than to put my family back together again and save my marriage. I learned along the way that I might not be able to save my marriage but I did save myself.
I know the task seems daunting but try to stay focused on yourself. Stay positive you never know what will happen. People get divorced and re-marry all the time. You have small children together so you both will be contected for many years to come.
Well, this is kind of awkward. So I am going shooting with the husband of the friend W apparently went shooting with, tonight. Can I just not seem to escape for a day...
I just need sleep and hope tomorrow will be better.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
So here's a question how do I know if she is in the fog or not
I'm surprised you haven't run across talk about the fog. You would be a better judge then we would be once you feel like you know what the fog is. Maybe try to read some more about it? It's the flip-flopping, the running, making statements that don't make sense. It is a long process and doesn't change your course of action, so not an immediate concern.
Joseph: absolutely do not feel like something is off since you are normally content and happy! I know it might just be self-deprecating modesty, but come on! The key to happiness is being happy with what you have. Yes it can work against you as a lack of motivation in many areas of life, but it beats the alternative!
M: 41 W: 41 Married 2003 2 boys 9 & 6 Bomb Dropped May 2017
6 year old asked what I was buying mommy for her bday, and said "you are buying her something right?" when I said no, she said, very sadly "It's because you aren't going to be married, is it?"
I just looked at her and smiled. I tried to reassure her everything would be okay and said "But I will help you make a gift for her".
She smiled and said okay.
At least i don't feel like a complete failure atm.
Gah, I will get better at this. I am trying not to show anything negative.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
You know, tomorrow will most likely be better. My best day in this process was followed by my worst. Roller coaster indeed!
Also, if you think your behavior on this trip to the range is going to make it back to the wife, you need to be happy, upbeat, and not ask about her at all.
M: 41 W: 41 Married 2003 2 boys 9 & 6 Bomb Dropped May 2017
The key to happiness is being happy with what you have. Yes it can work against you as a lack of motivation in many areas of life, but it beats the alternative!