Is she doing this because you didn't clean the house?
C'mon Joe! I know this sounds hyper masculine, but you need to become Alpha male not to be trifled with.
Get your GAL on, detach, look/smell good, don't give a d@mn what she does.
Taking care of your children and spending more time with them is definitely good. That's a good 180.
Not all 180s are made the same. If you want to do the dishes, put on some Metallica and a bandana while doing it - look bada$$ if that 180 is important to you.