Lost on how to save my marriage!

[joejoe1]

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Here's the current problem. She is in charge. You handed the reigns over to her, and now you are waiting for direction from her. Which way will she pull on the reigns? That's what TxHubby experienced, until he got fed up and decided he was not a horse, and he took the reigns away from her. Now his message is, "I'm going this way......you can go with me.....I don't care.......but I am still going this way". See, he is not trying to boss her around. She is free to make her own choices. He's letting her know his choice, and he no longer quietly falls into the path behind her, letting her yank on the reigns. He has taken back the reigns and is in charge of his life.

I bet you were stunned at the audacity of your W. You will see more of it. It's called entitlement. If you or your in-laws catered to your W, then she is going to behave like a spoiled brat. If she has carried your b@lls around in her purse for some time.......then you are going to be challenged, b/c once women get b@lls.......they don't want to surrender them. So, you want to know where to begin? My suggestion is to start with getting your b@lls back.

Sandi2,

I understand and acknowledge all. What am I to do? You wrote out what her problem is. What can I do to reestablish respect?

Do I tell her to move out?

Or Do I DB, GAL and 180 the hell out of this situation.

I haven't been contacting her. I don't initiate conversations, I don't ask questions.

Or those things only to help me get better or are they to help gain respect as well? Awaiting your advice.