When I texted STBXW that I wasn't going to Germany, and didn't need her to keep D, I got back a "why not" and later "and btw, I wasn't offering to keep my own daughter I hate the way you make some of the **** you say sound." I felt like she was doing me a favor, so I was trying to be grateful. Damned if you do, damned if you don't I guess. I apologized for making her feel that way.
I kind of understand where shes coming from. Next time, Id focus your communication more on you. "Im not going to go on the trip anymore so I would like to revert back to the normal schedule where D will be with me XYZ days. I appreciate you offering to help me on the days where I was going to be gone."
Its a little nitpicky, sure. But Id say it keeps your comments about you and not about her; that takes away any ammo that she has to start these kinds of..."discussions"
