Lost in Austin - Possible WAW

[AnotherStander]

Rats, I screwed up the tags on that last post, it should look like this:

So...couple of mixed signals from the crowd here. If I suspect an EA, or some kind of emotional tie-up with someone else, is talking about it the same as taking about the M? I know "detach" is the rule here, but at some point, the potential elephant in the room realistically has to be pointed out. Or am I totally missing it?

How can you tell a difference between an EA and a friend or coworker? I'm not sure what kind of boundary you can set on that other than to tell her she can't have any male friends, and I don't think that will go over too well. It'll just look to her like more control and manipulation.

Is the plan to stall? At some point it has to come up. Right?

The plan is to quit intervening to try and alter the outcome. I'm not saying to be a doormat or to accept an affair if/ when one does happen, but I am saying that you need to work on you and wait and cross that bridge when you get to it. I'm sure she already knows that an affair is crossing a line, I doubt she needs to be reminded of it.

W told me this morning (spontaneously, I didn't ask )that she really appreciated my calling and making her laugh after her fender-bender yesterday. Said she felt very loved and gave me a hug. So many confused messages...

Well that's good, but again, do not think it means she's changed her mind. It's very common for a WAS to do this kind of stuff after BD because they feel a great weight has been lifted, they've put the LBS on notice that they are checking out and they often feel almost giddy because of it. [/quote]