Thanks, Acc! Some very good points, and I agree with all of them. I do need to check with my L to see if I can ask W to leave. In the past she advised me that I shouldn't try to make her leave. It's better for me legally if it's voluntary on her part.

In terms of my personal progress, I feel like I'm slowly getting better and more emotionally stable. It's weird, but I usually feel better after an emotional torrent.

A coworker today told me that, in the last month, I seem to be happier and I'm laughing more.

I was talking to my cousin about my sitch recently - he D'd years ago. He told me I seem to be doing much better than him when he was at this point in his D. I guess I can chalk that up to DB'ing. I don't think DB'ing did much to save my M, but I think it helped me find a way to grow and make the most of this horrible sitch.


Me-47,XW-43
S13,S16
M:18
BD:4-23-17
W filed:7-17-17
(5 months of in-house separation hell)
W moved out:1-6-18
D granted:2-15-18
Decree signed:3-29-18

Your future is out there. Go find it.