When it's out of the blue, I just focus on trying to soothe her and basically tell her that mommy loves her, daddy loves her, and none of this is her fault. But it takes everything I have to get that out.
I have similar conversations with my S10. I think you handled yours well - you said the right things. The anger at W is hard to push down, but it sounds like you didn't let that come out with your D6.
This really is so hard on the kids. It's going to impact them the rest of their lives. Saying "they'll adapt" is like saying a dog will adapt if you cut off one of his legs. "Hey look, he can still stand."
Originally Posted By: dusty70
Ww and I had to attend a mandatory seminar regarding co-parenting and how to make our children's transition into this mess easier on them. Listening to children express their feelings was even tougher on me than when we told our children about the impending divorce. My WW was balling her eyes out, first sign of emotion from her!
Interesting seminar, dusty. I take it that it was it court mandated. Weird that this was the thing that finally got to your WW.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
