Joe, I found this in another DB thread that seemed to sum it up.
From AmyC
Dropping the rope is not something you do. It is a place that you reach.
You reach it when although you still love your spouse and would still like to see the marriage restored, you have begun to live for yourself happily again.
You drop the rope at the exact moment you know in your gut and in your soul that you ARE okay and further, that you will ALWAYS be okay. No matter what.
That's my opinion anyway.
Good luck.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
