Okay - stop doing activities with her, especially stuff like hiking because you have a lot of time to kill with her and there has to be conversation. I turned down a hike just two weeks ago with W because it sounded ridiculous considering the sitch we're in.
What you said down there is a variation of many things my W has said to me post BD and before I started DBing. Right now she's associating you with all her problems - you need to take yourself out of the equation so that she can see that her troubles didn't just magically disappear once you weren't around.
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By the end of the conversation she said that it's too late to save any relationship because ours has been over for so long. Then she throws out that my GAL is proof that I don't care about her. She went on and on as if trying to justify ways that I don't love her.
This is all rationalization on her part that she is doing the right thing. All you can do is validate here and say that you are sorry she feels this way - I can't come up with something else right now but Wonka's sheet has some good examples.
