1. No contact - unless about kids or anything else. Limit what you say and be very business like 2. Going dark - don't share what you're doing and what you're upto. If she asks, give vague answers. Don't say stuff like you're improving yourself and what not - she doesn't care. 3. Do not lift a finger for D if that's not what you want. 4. GAL your heart out 5. Work on detachment and dropping the rope 6. Be upbeat, positive and chill if you see her
Read Sandi's rules again. Put them in practice and then see what happens over time.
