I agree with Benni. You are dating already? Even though you feel good, if your main goal is to recon, you are only harming your chances. It is REALLY easy to get addicted and start an EA in a situation like yours. Limerance is highly addictive. This could potentially cause a lot of harm. You could end up in a rebound relationship. Go out to date when you are ready to, don't use dating to "get better". Get better and then date when you are ready to continue with your life.

You seem really codependent based on this... not good. Become an individual again. Meet other people in completely non-date matters. Get some new male friends too.


In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced
2 young kids
new relationship