Living in limbo and hating it

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Do you have your daughter every weekend? That seems a bit unfair, IMHO. Maybe that's better for D11, IDK, but it sure seems convenient for the lovers. Have you considered rescheduling where you can have a free weekend sometimes?

I was thinking about it too. But the WW complains that I'm not pulling 50/50 since she has her 5days/6nights and I only have her 2days/1 night per week. Granted during school year her "days" consist of 1 hour in the morning and 3-4 hours at night while I basically have D11 from Sat morning to Sun night. I don't know if changing the days would "inconvenience" WW and OM as he would just stay there on the weeknights when D isn't there.

[/quote]Btw, don't be too sure D11 hasn't figured out, or suspects, what's going on. Kids these days are pretty sharp about those type of things. [/quote]

Possible, who knows for sure? She might've figured something out but I highly doubt she knows who it is. D11 knows OM from our "old" life and I don't think she would've been able to keep it a secret from me. Sometimes I ask her in different ways if Mom had someone over at the apartment and she never once mentioned him. I also had a talk with her about lying or hiding things from Dad, and she seems adamant that she isn't.

[/quote]Do you financially support your W in any way?[/quote]

Great question; I forgot to mention this in my initial post. From the beginning we had separate finances. She only run a part time cash business and used her money for her shopping (clothing, shoes, etc). I paid all of the household expenses from my income including CC that she used for any family charges. Before she moved out I took all the CC and currently she's completely on her own. The only thing I continue to pay for are D's extracurricular activities, summer camps, and a few misc items. I also continue to pay for the whole family's health insurance as I don't want to go thru a mess of separating insurance accounts and/or having W lapse hers and needing a doctor or ER visit. Since we're still officially M I believe Id be on the hook for any potential med. charges.