What to Do? 2

[chris19]

Ah...

I see I'm waaay behind. I answered a question from the first page. D@mn! It seemed like such a good answer.

Ha; it was a good answer; it feel inline with most of the other comments. I am still not she how to answer W about the CC points. Before DB; I would have said something like "yea, IDK". So if I were to apply the 180 technique. I should probably as her how the point works (since she always does our finances)...and ask her to just keep track of the $ amount if she ends up using them.

[Holding]

On the CC points, since this is a joint CC, then technically only half the points are hers. I'd tell her to either only use half the points, or reimburse you for your half that she uses.

[chris19]

Holding - Thank you; I did respond to her by asking how the point exactly worked; and she went into detail about how they did work. She also let me know since its a travel CC; the points were better to use than cash; so we are splitting points so we can both benefit.

I know this is probably useless information to everyone...I just am trying to stay ahead of myself and not backtrack at the moment.

[chris19]

So after that text; she called me to ask me and explain the points....blah blah blah...basically she is going to use the points and pay me the dollar amount because you cannot split the points...

The conversation went off like there was nothing wrong...except the fact that she is buying the plane ticket to the wedding (and I am currently not going).

[sandi2]

I did respond to her by asking how the point exactly worked; and she went into detail about how they did work. She also let me know since its a travel CC; the points were better to use than cash; so we are splitting points so we can both benefit.

You already knew all of this ^^^^^^^^^^^^, so I think you used it as an excuse to contact her. You are the one who is about to burst to contact her, even if it's to hear her say what you already know.

Before I forget to tell you, don't express to her that you don't want a D. You've already told her twice..........so, unless she is deaf, don't make yourself appear weaker by telling her again.

[chris19]

Sandi in the house.

Actually; I did not know any of that CC Point system. She has handled our finances since day one. I really did not know. Point taken, I will not express to her again. She knows. It is up to me to continue to improve myself using 180/NC/Detach methods.

[chris19]

So she just texted back; "thank you for allowing me to use the points and pay you money; it helps a lot and saves money".

Do I need to respond to this; or just your welcome something like that?

[Maika]

I wouldn't respond back. It's done with.

[chris19]

Maika - Thanks for the advise. I have not responded to her; and I have not heard from her today. Going to maintain NC.

[chris19]

UPDATE -

Just received this text message from W:
"H, I've been thinking a lot. I'm guilty of it as well but it seems no effort is being made on either end for the last two/three weeks. Are we ready to move forward with this D?"