On the CC points, since this is a joint CC, then technically only half the points are hers. I'd tell her to either only use half the points, or reimburse you for your half that she uses.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18