when the courts say "50/50" is favored, it does not mean physical custody is shared equally. Just decisions.
Usually the kids are in the "primary physical custody" of the parent whom they are more used to, and who can provide more stability and time, but it's still seen legally as "50/50." The non custodial parent is the one who may pay child support and
(I would not be shocked if the reason your wife wants it to be shared custody is to lower her CS payment to you.)
Yes sure about the "half the money." I'm a L and although she was only legally entitled to half the joint accounts (in every state there is a presumption of equality or "equitable division of assets) she still took it all, right?
My stbx h took it all anyhow. And yes, I'll get it back next month -because that's the law but that is a a full YEAR after he took it.
\ It's FAR better to have money in your hand, then a promise of it later. I cannot stress that enough.
I was in the hospital when it happened and I didn't know, but since I don't want to hijack your thread I will be to the point.
It's well and good for people to say "she only gets half!' But if she already took it, YOU have to pay to get it back or hope she just feels like it. My h felt entitled to "his" money b/c he justified a lot of crappy behavior and[u][/u] that's how it is now.
Hire the lawyer asap b/c your wife has put plans in action already and you are only touching the iceberg of what is out there for you to know. In other words, you got a late start and you need to catch up fast.
I was married 35 years and raised 3 kids.
I will tell you what my kindly gentle older sister told me a few months ago, when I was again, reeling from h's monstrous behavior.
She said ' "SNAP OUT OF IT. Function now and ruminate/question things later. Get the money and the kids. You are in survival mode now."
Also get the book and read it, the Divorce Remedy is the more relevant of the 2 main ones, in my opinion.
I can explain that ^^ later but for now, you need to take action to protect your financial and legal interests.
And do not split the kids up no matter what her argument is. Don't think you can "nice your wife back home." And agree to crazy things to please her. There is no pleasing her.
It'll backfire and any judge who sees that you were okay with this down the road, will probably not think more of you.
Keep the kids together and when they each get older they can ask to live more in one parent's home, but for now, be their rock and keep them together.
Hang in there - it does get better!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
