I will give you my opinion. I don't think you have what it takes to pull of a Txhubby. He is one of the very few who pulled this off in an in house separation. Everyone loves to grasp to his story but very few have the alpha mindset to pull if off.
Now in my opinion, your wife will cake-eat off you as long as she can. You have four very young children and if anything will wake her up it will be the dose of reality she gets taking care of 4 kids on her own.
What are your boundaries? Are you willing to live in an open marriage?
