Jmstl's thread-Part 3

[lcause]

Ultimately, I feel that if you still show a strong self and don't act like a total loser (e.g. start calling your ex wh.. bit.. etc. - basically what tons and tons of people do), anything you do in 3-6 months after BD is not going to really matter because what goes in from the other ear comes out from the another. You didn't "lose" her by saying you will always be there because those are just WORDS. You can show by actions that you AREN'T always there for her and thus give her the possibility to miss you. This realization will take months or years.

So if your idea is to pursue recon, the quicker you forget this (do NOT mope on your words) and hop back on your DB-gal-horse, the better.