Thanks TX.....I have not been clingy in some time (no calls, texts,etc about R or D), I look good, have a good job, great with the kiddos etc. Just feeling like all of that is not going to wake her up so the thought of filing myself is crossing my mind (and I understand it is not a trick to get them back). Just trying to balance that out with being patient about the DB process and letting your consistent actions show over time. Trying to strike that balance.