Lost on how to save my marriage!

[LiM]

Thanks LIM I thoroughly understand......I read an old post on how the little bo-peep method rarely ever works which fell in-line with what TX said. My W moved out and I think there is another man but I have no proof, I stopped snooping once she moved out. It is now an assumption. What was your time frame before you pulled the trigger?

After my W moved out, I thought we were working on our M. After the first month, I knew something wasn't right but didn't know what it was. After 2 1/2 months, I found out that the A was still going on. It was at that point that I filed for D and served her at the end of the 3rd month. 3 days later, OM confessed to his W and the A ended. If I had not found out that the A was still going on, I have no clue where I'd be today.