What are the ages of you and W? Who decided your W should stop taking her anti-depressant meds? Did she taper off, or stop all at once? Wasn't this pretty close to when her mother passed away? And did you notice that was when her mood swings became more erratic?
She decided that she had enough with the meds. Wanted to think more clearly and worked with her doctor to taper off. She started the step down about six months after mom died. She went from being sad in talking about R to being angry, that was the big shift. Said now that she's happy to feel her feelings, which I do support.
BTW related to this - minutes ago I got an email from insurance company about a claim today and called her - she backed into a car in work parking garage and was in more tears than I've heard in a long time. Does not know why she is so emotional but is taking a personal day and really appreciated my call.
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...especially the part about feeling sex is like rape to her. Has this come up in any MC sessions?
Has not come up in MC so directly. Occurs to me that this may require some clarity on my part: Sex may be vanilla with us but is not violent or anything like that. I'd actually prefer a bit more variety, but even talking about it triggers her feeling violated. Yes she has been uptight in the bedroom, I think we both have, for a long time. Both of us have had partners in prior relationships where we haven't been so tense.
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Has there been a noticeable change in her appearance, like her trying to look younger, maybe dress a little more provocative, wear more cosmetics, new perfume, different hair color? Has she taken up with new and younger friends, and it doesn't really include you?
She's always been trying to look younger . She's been working out a lot - says it's her way to manage anxiety while off meds - and looks fantastic. That's it though, no going off to bars with girlfriends...we spend a lot of time with kids, the dog, each other.
I appreciate the folks here helping to explore this. I don't think it's typical but I don't really know.
. She's been working out a lot - says it's her way to manage anxiety while off meds - and looks fantastic. That's it though, no going off to bars with girlfriends...we spend a lot of time with kids, the dog, each other. 