It's pretty mind blowing when a spouse cheats on you and then isn't even remorseful about it. Actually blames you for it and doesn't stop. I recognized what kind of beaten-down man I had become. The kind of man that gets approval from modern society for being so weak, effeminate, etc. but also, as I learned the hard way, the kind of man that gets cheated on. That won't ever happen again, I promise you. Not that it couldn't, but that I'd never tolerate it again even for 1 second. Life is too short and I have too much to offer a good partner to tolerate a bad partner. So do you.
See? This is an example of what the new guys need to hear from other men. It is much more receivable, IMHO, when one man says it to another man.........rather than a woman trying to tell him. Besides, men get it said with fewer words.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
