No you're not. Is this version of 'family' okay to you?
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I said that I wanted to go as a family. I said I understood that it was still far away, our relationship will obviously be different, but that we were both amicable responsible adults, and saw no reason that we couldn't be together for a week, and said I felt that we would actually enjoy our time together with each other.
Say none of that.
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I added that I wished that she had come to me sooner, as I thought things were getting better, as I had heard no complaints. She said that was because in hindsight, she stopped caring. I said that is confusing, because if she did not let me know there was a problem, then how could I know that something needed to be worked on?
Same as above. don't have that convo unless she brings it up. and then validate. you asked for an explanation, which doesn't matter at this point.
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We talked about how we were going to handle dating. She said there were a few men she was talking to but she had not actually met anyone IRL. She said she had to disable her dating profile a few times, due to being overwhelmed and being treated like fresh meat. I gave her some tips on how she could handle those. I told her I had no intention of deleting mine and she should not delete hers, and we can coexist on the same site peacefully. And if she did not want to see my profile, she could just hide it
DO NOT HELP HER DATE OTHER MEN!!!! DO NOT SHARE YOUR DATING DETAILS!
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I asked if she was going to get her tattoo covered up (we each have one of our anniversary date) She said she was, and had an appt to get it done that day, but had gotten a sunburn. She said she was not trying to erase me, like I thought she was. She said she wasn't sure to get it before (it was her suggestion, btw) and had convinced herself to do it. I told her I had no intention of getting rid of mine, as it was a part of who I was and a memory I would cherish. And that if anyone I date has a problem with that, they aren't the type of person I would want to see.
Don't ask her such stuff and no need to share what you're going to do.
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Later we texted a bit, with me giving telling her how to protect herself online. She responded that I had to be careful too as women are sneaky and mischeivious (sp?)
Again, DON'T.
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Told her that as the mother of my children and my friend, that I will always be there for her,
Definite DON'T say that again!
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"Given how well this went today, and how we can have honest and open talks like this, if you are comfortable with it, next time you bring the kids over, you are welcome to come into the apartment.
I would say don't discard your boundaries too fast.
I am glad you felt at peace, but you need to put some time in with DBing to really evaluate if it's working or not.
