Jmstl's thread-Part 3

[Jmstl]

I guess how this interaction went depends on your goal. If your goal is to DB then it wasn't good. You're actually supporting her in getting a D. Helping her feel better about D'ing you. If your goal is the D and an amicable post-D relationship then it went well.

Tx-

I don't want the D. I know however, that I cannot stop the D.
I want to have a good post-D relationship with her at the very minimum, and I would like, in the future and after some time maybe try to reconcile.

I feel like there is absolutely nothing I could do within the next 3 weeks to turn her around and say "No, I don't want this divorce".

I DO want her to see what she is missing by not being with me. I want her to remember the good things about our relationship, and say to herself (bc she will never admit it straight to me) that even though she was done a year ago, things are vastly different now, and maybe we could try again.

As far as the DBing not being good, I know a few places I screwed up, but can you offer more specificity where I messed it up, and how to change it going forward?