Sorry to hear what your going through. My W officially moved out a few weeks ago. Funny thing we seem to be fighting more now that she is gone than the whole seven months I found out abiut the A. Right I'm just pissed with her trifiling ways and deceit on her part.
And yet there was a moment last night when I missed the woman who she was. I now this isn't DB advice. But my father advised me that I wouldn't be completely detached until I started engaging more with other women who showed interest in me. That is when you truly realize that there are far better women in this world than W.
And I have to agree with everything TxHubby mentioned. I kept W dirt on the low for so long hoping that W would come back and not have to be ashamed for what she did. But all this did was show weakness in my part and inspires to keep things going on. And probably motivated to engage in cheating with as few other men as well. Now when people ask how W and I are doing, I don't hesitate to tell them the truth about what she has been up to. So don't feel obligated to hide her A, because she is talking bad about you in order to justify her nonsense.
