You're doing fine. Be the best man you can possibly be but detach from her. Do your GAL, be a great father, plan a great future. If you're out of shape, get back in shape pronto. If your wardrobe is dated or just bad, then improve it. Be the man that any woman would love to be with. Confident, loyal, hard working, responsible, exciting, adventurous, etc.
Once I woke up and decided limbo sucked and I was going to make changes I actually did a really hard self-appraisal and listed out things I needed to change about myself. That then became my action plan. I got my career back on track and got promoted. Bought a motorcycle, bought a bicycle. Started going back to live music events like I used to do. Got in shape, updated my look/wardrobe. Tried to become the best version of me that I could be.
Stopped engaging her. Did a very hard/firm 180. Really detached. Was never rude, angry, bitter, etc. Those are very unattractive qualities. I only spoke to her when I had to and then it was always from a place of self-confidence, wisdom, and detachment.
Follow the 37 rules or as many as apply to your sitch. Really get serious about becoming the best version of yourself you can be and spend as little time around cheaters as you can. Your life will be full of positive things. There is nothing positive about a cheater's life. Their lives are based on lies, deceit, secrets, betrayal, etc. These are not things you want around your or occupying your head space.
If you do these things then you will set yourself up for a no-lose scenario. Either your WW will snap out of it and beg for a second chance or she won't but you'll be stronger, smarter, and ready to move forward with your great future. By the time my WW broke down, got rid of her foolish pride, and begged me for another chance, I had pretty much moved on in my heart. She just looked pathetic and unattractive at that point. I had really turned my life around. Why should I compromise my ethics to be with a cheater? I ended up staying and we still do marriage counseling but the worm has definitely turned. I'm confident and on top my game now. I'm the master of my own future.
I still love, honor, and cherish my wife every day but I also demand that I too be loved, honored, and cherished. Any betrayal of any kind whatsoever and I'm gone for good and know that I'll be just fine. It's that moment when they see that you're really going to be just fine without them is when they realize they've lost you and want you back. At least that's what happened to me and what I've see work for so many others. That works more than any other plan.
