Lost on how to save my marriage!

[joejoe1]

TxHubby,

It's funny, because I'm just really starting to understand how to 180. I thought it was more of doing the things she say I didn't do. But it's do the opposite of all the things you use to do.
I'm starting to detach now. I'm waiting to see how she reacts. I haven't gotten much of a reaction yet, but I just started. I don't know how it will take for me to see one, but I have my eyes open. The only thing I'm scared of, is being pulled in and temp tested and I give in. I'm confused on, if it comes to a point and she wants to have sex and I do to, do I? What are your thoughts on that situation.

I'm not going to disregard anyone's advice. I'm hear to learn and get tech's to apply to my own situation. I understand that each situation is unique.

Last night, I went out with a friend for burgers and beers, I had a nice time. All I told her was I was going out, I didn't tell her where I was going and with who.

She is still being cold towards me, but I'm still doing 180s, by cleaning the house and help to get the kids ready for school. I have been putting a coffee cup on the Kurig once I finish making my coffee. She dosen't seem to take notice to it, but I won't stop. It's a 180 for me.