I hate that this man left me with no f**king explanation after 18 years, saw me and our M as not even worth a conversation and then dragged things out for 18 months. What a POS he is now.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
Sending you hugs (((Treasur))). It is amazing how detatched from us they have become. I also imagine punching my H in the face and when I do my exercise video which involves punching that's exactly what I imagine I am doing!
I hope stbx does come by to clear out his stuff. I imagine he was doing what I suspect my H is currently doing and that was using the house as a storage facility because he couldn't be bothered to organise anything himself. Lazy and selfish to the end!
I think you should clear out what is yours asap and tell him everything else is his...
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Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
If it wasn't for the folks here, and other people's stories, I would sometimes think I was insane. RL friends don't get it at all, the WTFness of it. How very odd MLC behaviour is.
It's my wedding anniversary in a week. I honestly would have bet my life that my H loved me, and that if he stopped loving me as a wife, he liked me enough to behave with respect and kindness. Seems I was wrong! I don't stay angry for long. It isn't very useful really. Things are as they are and I just have to do the best I can. Still, it makes the practicalities difficult.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
Before all of this madness invaded my life, I was a strong, optimistic, loving, generous, unafraid woman. Also probably a bit smug and lazy and complacent.
And then life broke me.
Now? I am a different kind of woman. Not so optimistic and more acquainted with fear. Not so strong. Definitely not so smug or complacent. I am still loving, generous and maybe braver because of the storm. I have learned to let go of what I can't control, to mourn my losses and count my blessings. To plan less and adapt more.
Me: 53 H:38 T:20 M:14 BD ILYB etc 10/15, H diagnosed severe depression S 1/16 PA 4/16 H filed 1/17
