Yesterday W came by to see d9 and s8 my son s9 looks so tired exhausted, I honestly didn't say much as much I wanted to scream I love you, W was asking all the question as i said earlier i had surgery she said how you feeling and she notice how much weight I lost she made a comment how skinny I gotten and how she doesn't like me skinny, I of course ignored she then said be careful and make sure i always put home alarm because I moved to to a home what i can afford is not the best neighborhood but not bad either. But she stuck up and was sounding concern i again didn't say much. Before leaving she ask for a hug I gave her a pat on the back and stook my distance besides having stitches in my back i am just disgusted the thought of her with someone else.
Well W hasn't confirmed other OW but my d9 said d9 was over MIL, OW is always with her and d9 also notice bathroom toothbrush 2 of them my d9 has grown up the last couple month's which i hate she had a rough childhood before adopting and this now has her back to being alert again. She had to grpw up. Which breaks my heart.
I remember at first W was all about co-parating yeah wishful thinking. I am just lost maybe Someone can help me why take only S9 and not d9 and s8. S9 is more quieter and he pretty much a kid you can buy him things and he stays quiet. My d9 says that is W home he has all new toys and everything you can think of. Where I am more of parent first and your friend later. D9 and s8 they don't have a filter they are so different from s9 they are day and night. But what she doesn't seem to get is they feel she loves s9 more not them because she only took him.
Today I am going to court house to get protective order to get son back and praying that they could assign me a lawyer as I don't have any money at all. I pray that the judge could see I only want the kids together we have never separated them since we adopted them. I feel like not only did she break my heart but also to take my son is like what else does she want and btw s9 is closes to me since he was 3 months everyone knows this I feel she did this to break me to see me hurt. If only W knew how hurt I am.
Question for any MLC do you know your spouse is hurting or they can't see how broken we are.
God is good everyday I know something gotta give. I know am trying but am not sure I could ever see us again if if the fog lifts. W acts like nothing. She goes weeks no text or call and couple weeks ago I received a text saying she wants to live her life i live mine i said ok but i need my s9 her response was things will be different she again acts like am suppose to walk away from s9 because she abandoned d9 and s8 does she think my mind is like hers am suppose to forget i have another son... is just a sad situation I honestly didn't know this was going to escalate this way.
I do cry every night not because of the situation don't get me wrong it hurts bad but it hurts more to see my kids going through this they didn't ask for this life or be born but they also didn't ask to be adopted and then this happens in a f*** up situation where 2 kids feel she doesn't love them they feel they are the problem and s9 other son basically has became a brat because he does whatever at her home and gets whatever he wants. While I struggle financially because she took it all and she does have a good paying job. Before getting hurt at work i also always work but took a pay cut years ago because it was hard with 3 kids. And look at me now. Smh....
Illinois child care or child custody change so much now we are in a state 50/50 which I still don't understand why is that way. Especially when is people like her walking away literally abandoning our kids she just woke up and just left. I keep telling myself everything we go through in life is for a reason am not sure yet what lesson i gotta learn from this but God will show me. I hope to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Btw, OW works with her so I guess that's how they met, who knows how long this affair was still W won't confirm but all signs are there and yesterday I seen a ring in her wedding finger I said congrats on your new relationship she swear i gave her that ring... ummm I know what i purchase for her and is an engagement ring. All I can say I hope she is worth everything we built in 10yrs.
Me,39 W,37 S9,D9 and S8 adopted together BD end of April 2017 Move out June 2017 OW haven't confirmed but OW told D9 you will be seeing me around and trys family events with kids and W like they are a family.
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At BD Lesbian marriage Me39,W36 S9,D9,S8 adopted all three Together almost 10yrs Bomb Drop - April 2017 W movedout - May,2017 OW June,2017 Currently 2018 Me40, W38 S10,D10,S9
