I have a question when you got fed up, did you ever consider your wife feelings. What I mean, when she seemed upset how did you react to that?
It was hard for her to put on those shows of breaking down and sobbing because I stayed around the house very little. I was almost always doing GAL. For a long time she didn't give a crap about my feelings and all our years together. She treated me cruelly and flaunted her adultery in my face. I fully detached. I didn't fake it. I did it. I had to. Not detaching was killing me. I woke up one day and realized that no other person was worth dying for like this. Especially her at this point in our lives. She was one of the last people on earth that was worth dying for. At least to me.
I had my own plan going forward great, I was back in shape (lost 40 lbs and toned up great), I was riding my new motorcycle or off bicycling with friends, hanging out with groups of friends at clubs that had live music (I LOVE live music), working out, going for walks, having coffee or dinner with a friend (male or female), etc.
This is when it turned and all the sudden she'd ask me if I wanted to talk. I'd give her less than a minute then said I needed to go. She'd ask if we could talk later and I'd say sure and then be gone or busy. She started breaking down more when I was home. I'd either ignore it or give her the standard "I'm sorry you're upset" or something like that. I'd then end the engagement as quick as I could and move on. Her life was turning to crap. Why? Because she was a cheater associating with douche bag men. Nobody that's a cheater is going to have a great life. It's a seedy life full of deceit, lies, judgments by friends/family, etc. If I was cornered by these pathetic displays I'd validate her despair but never ever comforted her. She had made her bed. My days of being her rock were gone. She didn't want me anymore. Didn't get to sow her oats because we married so young. So be it. She lost me. That is the absolute secret to them pursuing you.
