24 Mths in..I gotta whole lot of living to do now

[Irish M]

You are perhaps the better man because you are keeping a bit of an eye on your X and hoping that she journeys through and out of MLC and reconciles with at least your kids. I hope you've taken that completely off the table for yourself now that you have a NG in the picture.

Hi Andrew.
hope you had a great weekend.
i wouldn't say a better man , my sitch seems a little more extreme since she chose 100% abandonment of all that once was.. kids, friends and me of course. I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have to deal with her on a weekly kid exchange. Then I think about the girls. They are better off this way, not seeing her crazy. I also believe they will open up faster to her if she emerges from the shadows and healthy version of mom.

as for the option of her and me getting back together. I can;t see that happening at all. I am happy growing this new, healthy relationship with my GF. it does come with some hiccups.. but so far so good.

At least you are divorced from yours. That has proven very difficult for me.

HI own it ((huigs)). Yes the divorce. It was needed to happen. Her monster stopped when the papers came through. I truly believe it must end the old relationship before anything can happen. They need it to end. I'm not saying it will wake them up but I did see a change with her messages.. less monstering.

I think we have to try and live every phase of our lives in a way that we can look back on with peace. Try to do our best, by ourselves and by others. Try not to cause pain and to decently and honestly deal with tough things. I'm sad that your ex W will come to feel that she has lost something most precious. But she isn't in that place just now and there is still a me, me ring to her replies. In truth, she would need to find more genuine remorse and humility to reconnect, and I truly hope that she does.

Hi Sotto ((hugs))
that's all we can do is try our best and be treat them the way we hope to be treated one day. My relationship is over. My girls 15 and 17. That what really hurts. I pray they have half the relationship they had with their mom. They deserve it. I miss seeing that connection. I too truly hope she does the work one day and I know I will help the best I can.

As for pictures or words about a new R after a marriage ends, particularly a marriage with children,

should not be posted.

1) at all, or 2) only after the divorce is final AND long over, and the kids are in the acceptance phase.

Let's get real.

Hi 25yrs ((hugs))
I too agree with this. I haven't changed my status on FB seeing someone. I don't have a pic on my profile of my GF, Yes some vacation pics of all of us but no lovey dovey ones.
The girls are still way too sensitive. Its not needed.

The over the top pictures are odd and in poor taste, at best. Intentionally cruel at worst.

My MLCr did just that. One week after moving out and in with him. Soul mates.. and finally away from the old life. It devastated the girls . I'm so glad they deleted her and avoided looking at her page. Even today they don't look. Its a good thing. It only causes pain.

Its crazy but what isn't about all this.