Sandi - Thanks. BTW your posts are fantastic and an unbelievably helpful perspective.
Re: "Do nothing that puts emotional pressure on her. Every time you take a step toward her, she will take a step back."
Yes. I've seen this live and in action. But when I step away, the response seems to be "see, I was right, he's an a$$hole and is not available, so I'm justified in getting out."
My gut tells me that the right thing to do is to be a beacon of light for the kids, and a strong rock for the family. But I can't tell if that's naive and the exact wrong thing to do.
I'm hanging out with a buddy tonight but haven't told her my plans, which is highly unusual for me.
