Time for a long post, or as I call it, "Free therapy".
Here are 2 recent text interactions that show how my W is trying to rattle my cage and use her anger to control me.
This first scenario happened while I was at work:
W: I need a copy of your most recent paycheck
(Notice how she didn't ask?)
Me: Why
W: Need it for legal stuff
Me: For the divorce?
W: Yes
(I quickly emailed my lawyer, and she said not to provide it to my W.)
Me: My lawyer will take care of my pay stubs
W: Thanks for your cooperation
W: From now on any paper work you request from me can go through the attorney
W: You will be in charge of setting up October bills since I have done the last 2 months.
(I never responded.)
On to the second scenario. W's laptop has been acting up. In the past I always fixed her computer, but she brought it to the computer store to have them look at it. While I was cutting the grass today she texted me:
W: Take a look at your external hard drive and tell me the last time we backed up my laptop. My hard drive is unrecoverable
(Notice how, once again, this is phrased as a command.)
Me: Sorry to hear. I'm cutting the grass right now
Me: Also if you'd like me to do something for you, you need to ask me, not tell me
(We've secretly replaced a NG husband with one who sets boundaries and will not tolerate being barked at. Let's see if she notices.)
W: Jesus Christ
W: Shut up
W: Forget I texted you
(Again, I never responded.)
Both these interactions remind me of the old joke - Why does divorce cost so much? Because it's worth it!
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
