New to the journey and thank you.

[Kylo]

A specific question: What do I say to her when she asks me about her appearance, or how should I say it? I'm thinking I just say "You look nice." and leave it at that.

She came up to me today before she went to a birthday party and asked me if her arms looked buff, (she was going to a party for a yoga studio owner). At first I gave her a "yeah, they're OK kind of shrug" (which was the absolute truth about what I thought about them: not that impressive). She looked disappointed and walked away. I felt like I was being too cold instead of happy, so I told her to come back and show me again. She flexed and I said "dayaaam!" She smiled and liked it.

I know this is a small thing, but I think I'll be in this situation 10-20 more times. Good, bad? She still pretty much hates me. I feel like no one wants to be around a downer, or someone who makes you feel bad. The downside is if you come across as too "into them". Which brings me back to a middle-of-the-road: "you look nice".