I absolutely ignore the marital revisions. Looking through photos, FB posts, and FB checkins from the last 7 years tells me that she hasn't really been wanting to D the last 10, 7, you pick the number of years
I wouldn't say I'm trying to shame her into staying. I'll hit her with a truth dart where I think it might be appropriate
A few weeks ago we were sitting on the patio:
WW: I want to go back to the original agreement where I stay here during the week and you're here on the weekends Me: No. I want 50/50...week on week off WW: Well I don't have a place to stay and you do Me: Not my problem you're the one who wants to D WW: (angrily) Time for me to go then Me: It's your mess you're going to have to deal with the consequences WW: It's both of our mess Me: I'm not the one who went outside the marriage to seek comfort and validation from the opposite sex multiple times
I try not to make moral judgements at the same time I don't hesitate to hit her with the occasional truth dart. Occasionally WW will say "keep your negative comments to yourself"
