Picking up Her MESS

[marina7]

Thank you Everyone, yes I will have to call more lawyers to see what can be done. Illinois child care law is up in the air there is no who get full custody is a 50/50 which I don't understand.

It blew my mind because she talks about our kids like property but then I was reading not sure who wrote it she took our s9 because he is more quite and in his own world where my other two are more attentive at what she is doing example my W stop smoking cigarettes because I didn't like it and she stop on her own well my D9 said I seen mommy smoking a cigarette and I know she is drinking again alcoholic runs in her family. When we met I lived in other state but when we started dating I would see her drink 4 or more cans of beer, my bil lived with us he was then a alcoholic and in drugs. W and I help him to get to rehab and he been doing amazing, W also cut back her drinking because she knew my thoughts and we where talking about marriage and children. She was an amazing mom and wife. Always made sure are needs where met so as I with her she always had her freedom she always did girls night out and it was a great marriage. So not sure what happen.

So going to the question what lead up to this here it go I have no reason to lie we are humans we make mistakes. In 2013 I had an EA that's all she lived in NY we just talked and text my W found out and confronted me and I told her the truth. I explained her lack of emotions with us she was never a lovey wife. I guess because of her childhood.
In 2015 I have lupus and MS and had a grandmal seizures where she found me herself she thought I was dead no pulse or anything she did cpr.and I was in hospital for over a week. It was touch and go. But am here. But I of course would apologize for my stupidity she would say we will get through this. I wanted to go to MC but life gets busy with 3 kids. I made sure that she knew and showed her how sorry i was. And she said i know you are.

W childhood she has both parent's still together but growing up all she seen her dad beating her mom and him drinking. He was very mean man when drinking and attack her mom and her mom is not an affectionate women, I have nnever seen my MIL hug my W, her mom is not affectionate and that's where my W gets it from because my W is not an affectionate person where am more hug person and show affectionate. Before W left to service her father hit her mom in a drunk stage my W call cop and had him lock up. Things after that changed W says her dad never again hit her mom. And when i met them i would have not thought of that but my own MIL told me the horrors stories she went through.

I never thought that this will happen. Because my W is such a strong Women but I guess even the strong break.