Thanks Sotto. Always good to see you pop up on my thread :-). I am looking around for dancing classes... we'll see how it goes!
Happy labor day weekend to my fellow US DB'rs. I have a love/hate relationship with this weekend. Love the get togethers, hate the fact that it means winter is coming. Booo to new england winters. But maybe I can go snow boarding this winter, have not been since I broke my leg playing hockey about 6 years ago.
Anyway, things are going well! Went to the TRX class last week and it rocked. Any fitness enthusiasts out there looking for something new, give it a try! It is hard, but very good. I had to come up front right next to the instructor so she could show me the moves. I caught on pretty quick. She was cute too! So I used it as an opportunity to chat her a bit, some practice. Man was she strong... gabbing away during the ab portion of the class... pretty amazing. I'll go again this week!
I started with this spanish ap since I have an hr train ride (2 hrs total!) each day into the city. I picked up a lot so far and message/text my brother in spanish when I can. He is more advanced than me. Super excited to go to the indoor rock climbing gym with work this week. Always wanted to do that!
My labor day get together was great! House is a mess but I guess that is a sign of a good party. I did find myself getting a little melancholy at times for a few reasons. First, seeing my friends with their young kids and significant others made me sad a bit. Not jealous but sad. I had to consciously say... come on Pin!! snap out of it! So that worked. Second, thing was that these get togethers were always, always WW's thing. She was a little socialite and she loved it. So it stirred up those memories a bit. Everyone was very happy to hear the news about myself and WW. My friends and family are not a fan of WW. I honestly cannot blame them one bit. So, towards the end of the night, a few of my friends were like oh I should set you up with X, Y and Z. It was fun to chat about and look at her friends, but for some reason, that made me blah. I was like meh... sure I'll meet up with anyone. Maybe just too soon? I don't know. Not sure what was up with that.
So today I broke NC with WW via text (I had debated how to do this all week!). I said hi, how ya doing and then got right into it. I wanted to find out when we could get a move on with things or if she did anything already. She didn't do anything nor did she have immediate plans which did not surprise me. I told her the three options were that I could file but needed her address (she moved out 2 years ago and I don't have her address!), we could go and do it together or I could do it and we could find a notary where she could sign the papers. She goes... whatever is best (well that is what I was asking you for!). I said option 2 is the fastest. She says... why does it have to be fast? I said look... it has been a long time, I'm tired and we obv are not going to work out... and to be honest I am not 100% comfortable being with someone else until things are at least moving along. Then she says... I understand... I don't know why I can't pull the trigger. I didn't respond to her last text. She did give me her address and I'll just do it that way.
I wanted to tell her what I really thought of her... but bit my lip.
Can't pull the trigger? She's done that a million times already. I don't understand the difference between her telling me all the reasons she does not want to be with me, ending things abruptly over and over again and actually completing the divorce. Seriously, what is the difference? Isn't that selfish thinking? Is that a control thing? She can do whatever she wants but since we are still married, there is some control there over me? Maybe she knows I would have trouble moving on being still actually married? I have no idea. I know if I do not push the divorce though this thing is going to take forever because she will not do it.
I know some will say.. oh you shouldn't have contacted her and you should have just filed. I agree, if this was early on or in DB'ing mode. This is not about DB'ing anymore though. This is about making it through this process in the most cordial way possible. If it turns ugly, I have way, way more to lose than she does. Need to get on with life!
