Kyh, thank you so can I ask did your W ever snap out of it, I pray to God everyday to see a sign. I have to say I always had faith but lately my faith is stronger I believe something big will come out of this. We both faught so hard to be together and also to adopt our kids I know our story can't end like this.
Also I have everything of hers. Is it normal to literally walk away from her things. I am still trying to wake up from this nightmare.
I went to see a lawyer is 3500 to just get started. And even the lawyer doesn't know how to file. She lost why only take one. I honestly believe my W is suicidal but having a child keeps her busy she has told me I need one of them i can't handle all 3 but i need one please. Understand so before this she talk about making her life insurance higher and one time she said there days she wants to drive her car over a bridge. This is when she went dark for weeks. I am lost I love her and so in love with my W I am so use to fixing everything and not being able to help her drive's me crazy she didn't deserve this. She had a bad childhood i knew it was going catch up sooner than later.
Hi again:) To answer your question, yes and no. Very condensed story - She got slapped with reality when I was recommended custody. This was near the same time she supposedly broke up w/ OM, and after she moved across the state w/kids in tow to be w/him. She partially woke up because her MLC fairytale started falling apart. She called me crying asking if she moved back if I would share custody. I agreed because I will have no part of taking the kids from her. We also almost lost S right after and spent 8 days in the hospital together and another week or so at my house so a lot happened fast. She hasn't been the monster she was since then but is still living in MLC land big time, still hasn't lifted a finger to work on herself and went through w/D. So no she didn't snap out of it but her nasty emails and texts stopped and she is generally doesn't monster on me anymore but there have been a few instances. If you can, disconnect and respond, don't react.
If she doesn't get her way she will monster on you. She isn't the person you knew right now so you have to look out for yourself and kids. Don't let your guard down! In my experience they will try anything and everything to get their way and find new people to support them and abandon those that don't.
Your right something big will come of this. At a minimum you will become closer to your kids, a better parent, and a better person. I know it's hard but keep your expectations from them at zero.
Yes, it isn't out of the ordinary for them to leave everything behind. She's running hard. I wouldn't be surprised if she tried to come back for it at some point but some leave it all behind.
If the attorney you saw doesn't know what to do maybe talk to someone else. I think in your case an emergency custody order would be justified. Her taking just one of your children shows how far out of it she is. This is not good for your kids, they will grow closer to each other (and you) through this and need each other. It is also unhealthy for a child to have her putting her needs on him, he needs his siblings. You don't have to file for D (put that on her) but be sure to protect yourself and kids.
My xw also talked a lot about life insurance at the beginning, they are afraid of the realization of mortality. She never made comments about suicide though and that is really troubling. She sounds very depressed. I hope she will get some help.
Also, in regard to all the awful things she said to you, don't believe what they say. She is miserable and wants you to feel the same. I heard very similar things at the beginning. She can't see it's her and is blaming the closest person to her for her unhappiness.
My xw also had a bad childhood, it's a common theme. Some MLCers will regress back to these times when they were stunted. You can't help them, they have to work through it for themselves.
I think you're doing better than you think, take care of your kids and yourself. Don't settle for anything less than you and your kids deserve.
