My therapist interprets "you say mean things" as:

She would start off the sentence and then let me finish

"Raysd when WW says you're mean it's because I'm holding you accountable for your actions"

"Raysd when WW says you're mean it's because I'm treating you like an adult"

"Raysd when WW says you're being nice it's because I'm being a doormat"

M50 WW50
T27 M23
D17
D15
EA#1 3/2010
BD 5/2/2017

Trying to make sense out of crazymaking