Join the club of people who WANT to write/text/say/yell truisms to their WAS.s
But don't. Not only b/c you will regret it (and you will). But b/c it fuels their negative views of you and the m.
I have not once heard of a WAS who slaps their forehead and slinks home with their tail between their legs.
They get madder at the LBS. Guilting does not work. They convert it into anger and that is aimed at the "causer of guilt", ie you. I ONCE texted h a 2 paragraph (maybe 12 lines) stating facts that were causing our kids pain, all of which I laid at his feet.No name calling.
his response was something like he was "weary of the abuse"...ABUSE?? OMG that is so freaking insane, that I am smh. Another time I texted that d28 was "very stressed about college applications". And h texted back "Oh is that my fault??"
Never occurred to me that her stress was related to him. I mean that, never crossed MY mind.
And that was 10 years ago before we reconciled.
And that ^^ is if they bother reading more than 3 sentences b/c once they see it's not news about the kids or some form of flattering attention they tune it out.
Best to keep it to yourself. Sorry, but I speak from experience.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
